Maintain Your Friendship
10 Points to Maintain Friendship
1. FOCUS ON WHAT YOU CAN GIVE TO A FRIEND, NOT WHAT YOU CAN GET OUT OF A FRIENDSHIP.
If being happy is your only motive for wanting someone to be your friend, then you are not being a real friend. Don't get caught up in keeping tabs on who has given most in the friendship. Give to your friends regardless of how much they give to you.
2. ENCOURAGE YOUR FRIEND.
Real friends inspire and push each other to be the best that they can be, rather than drag each other down. They are happy when other people achieve their goals.
3. BE WILLING TO FORGIVE.
Don't let hurt turn to grudge. This is one sure way to destroy a friendship. Forgive your friend and move on.
4. TACTFULLY POINT OUT THEIR MISTAKES.
This is one way to show concern for others. If you really care, you will tactfully point out a specific example for his own good. But once you've brought the problem to your friend's attention, don't harp on it all the time. Don't walk away from a friendship when you see some of your friend's faults. Be patient with a friend as he or she tries to change. Realize that nobody is perfect.
5. BE RELIABLE.
When you say you are going to be there, be there.
6. DON'T TRY TO CONTROL YOUR FRIENDS.
Real friendship does not mean you always have to be together. It may be tempting to have a fun person all to yourself, and feel threatened when your friend spends time with others. If you are afraid to let your friends out of your sight, you are probably afraid of losing them. Good friendship will endure time spent apart. You and your friends may learn to appreciate each other even more.
7. BE THERE FOR THE GOOD AND THE BAD TIMES.
Celebrate with them if your friends are excited about someth ing. But don't be there just for the good times. When your friend is upset about something, give them your full attention. Most of the time, what friends really need is a sympathetic ear, someone who understand their feelings.
8. LEARN TO ACCEPT PERSONALITY DIFFERENCES IN YOUR FRIENDS.
Be careful not to evaluate other people by how you react in a particular situation. Do not automatically take your friends' behaviour personally.
9. DON'T BE A BLABBERMOUTH.
Learn and be willing to keep each other's secrets.
10. DON'T LET ARGUMENTS DESTROY YOUR FRIENDSHIP.
Suppose you're having a discussion with a friend and after you've said what you think is true, they still disagree. Don't keep arguing until you get mad with each other. Just drop it. Your desire to win the argument may ruin your friendship.
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1. FOCUS ON WHAT YOU CAN GIVE TO A FRIEND, NOT WHAT YOU CAN GET OUT OF A FRIENDSHIP.
If being happy is your only motive for wanting someone to be your friend, then you are not being a real friend. Don't get caught up in keeping tabs on who has given most in the friendship. Give to your friends regardless of how much they give to you.
2. ENCOURAGE YOUR FRIEND.
Real friends inspire and push each other to be the best that they can be, rather than drag each other down. They are happy when other people achieve their goals.
3. BE WILLING TO FORGIVE.
Don't let hurt turn to grudge. This is one sure way to destroy a friendship. Forgive your friend and move on.
4. TACTFULLY POINT OUT THEIR MISTAKES.
This is one way to show concern for others. If you really care, you will tactfully point out a specific example for his own good. But once you've brought the problem to your friend's attention, don't harp on it all the time. Don't walk away from a friendship when you see some of your friend's faults. Be patient with a friend as he or she tries to change. Realize that nobody is perfect.
5. BE RELIABLE.
When you say you are going to be there, be there.
6. DON'T TRY TO CONTROL YOUR FRIENDS.
Real friendship does not mean you always have to be together. It may be tempting to have a fun person all to yourself, and feel threatened when your friend spends time with others. If you are afraid to let your friends out of your sight, you are probably afraid of losing them. Good friendship will endure time spent apart. You and your friends may learn to appreciate each other even more.
7. BE THERE FOR THE GOOD AND THE BAD TIMES.
Celebrate with them if your friends are excited about someth ing. But don't be there just for the good times. When your friend is upset about something, give them your full attention. Most of the time, what friends really need is a sympathetic ear, someone who understand their feelings.
8. LEARN TO ACCEPT PERSONALITY DIFFERENCES IN YOUR FRIENDS.
Be careful not to evaluate other people by how you react in a particular situation. Do not automatically take your friends' behaviour personally.
9. DON'T BE A BLABBERMOUTH.
Learn and be willing to keep each other's secrets.
10. DON'T LET ARGUMENTS DESTROY YOUR FRIENDSHIP.
Suppose you're having a discussion with a friend and after you've said what you think is true, they still disagree. Don't keep arguing until you get mad with each other. Just drop it. Your desire to win the argument may ruin your friendship.
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Good sharing, especially the very first point. It is very important to give rather than to receive. Great post!
Hello
I thoroughly enjoyed reading your positive thoughts.
If only we could always look at others and ourselves through positive eyes. Life would be so much more at peace and so much more satisfying.
Too many people these days are self serving and do not care about others or how others may react to their negativity.
Again....excellent thoughts!
Keep moving forward!
DorothyL
Hi, you must have many friends knowing the keys of it. For me the key is only one "THE TRUTH".
Cheers...
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wow great post!! "FRIENDSHIP IS JUST A MATTER OF GIVE AND TAKE..A PROCESS OF MUTUALITY AND RECIPROCITY....
I already learn some lessons about this...But how can you forgive a friend whom you trusted and backfight over you and even tried to ruin your dignity and reputation??? How can you accept a friend when trust is no longer there?? I have been through it and learned some lessons....
Some people come and some people go...that is life I guess...the most important thing is that you always learn some lessons from bad experiences..
Cheers!!
permission to share and spread this in one of my blogs...here...
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thanks in advance
Good article. I shall pass this one along. Thank you for visiting my blog, friend.
Excellent post, and good advice! Love your positive attitude!
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nice post! thanks for sharing.
smiles:-)
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wow :)
hiya there, I like this friendship article of yours... Hope you won't mind if I post it in my blog but will link you as my source okay...
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Hi,
I like your blog, I`m new in this art...)I will love some advice from you.
Sending love and light,
Solcarina
You have written a good Friendship articles and i love to read your articles...
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